On October 6, 2023 I had the weighty privilege of preaching my grandmother’s funeral. She was a faithful woman who died in Christ.

“The remembrance of the righteous is blessed….” Proverbs 10:7

Myrtice Eugene Wheeler, February 22, 1930 – October 3, 2023

An Audio Recording of the Message Is Available Here: Little House of Bread: “The memory of the righteous is a blessing.” Proverbs 10:7

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As many of you know these last two weeks were both unique and challenging… though they also proved to be an extended opportunity for more goodbyes too.

And while there may well be a range of opinions, thoughts, and conclusions about Granny effectively sleeping for some two weeks – what came to mind for me was her often sharing with me that she struggled to sleep well… she often did not have good rest.

And here she was sleeping soundly… and long… and seeing this I would think about Psalm 127 where Solomon wrote, “The Lord gives sleep to His beloved.”

And it reminded me that while life has many struggles… and many trials… the Lord withheld no good thing from Granny….

Now… it is only fitting that we take an opportunity in our time together to remember more than her last two weeks…. 

And in her nine plus decades she secured quite a legacy.

And I would submit that Granny’s legacy affirms some very important things.

Granny’s legacy affirms that: The Scriptures are God’s inspired Words and are therefore powerful and effective. 

Granny’s legacy affirms that: The Gospel is true and works itself out in the full complexities of life.

And Granny’s legacy affirms that: Christ will keep and complete His work in His beloved.

And she was and forever will be in Christ… forever His beloved… and such is why it was fitting to include Proverbs 10:7 in her tribute video that you may have observed during visitation this morning.

Proverbs 10:7, which states, “The remembrance of the righteous is blessed….” 

Or as others have worded it, “The memory of the righteous is a blessing….” (ESV)

And to flesh that out a bit we had a number of statements peppered among the many pictures… statements affirming the blessing of her remembrance.

• That she was saved by grace.
• That she feared The Lord.
• That she modeled faithfulness.
• That she served through prayer.
• That she struggled and smiled.
• That she graciously sacrificed.
• That she loved The Lord.
• That she loved her family.
• That she stayed the course.

And… I know many of you could add more and more to such a list too…. 

And such is the nature of one who experienced not only a long life… but a well lived and faithful life.

But… if I might add one more… a more personal one… I would add that she was a hero to me.

Heroes are hard to come by… but Granny was one of mine.

Now… some persons are better heroes at a distance and it is an unfortunately common experience that if you get close enough to some heroes you realize they are all too regular… too common… and as such will often disappoint you.

But that was not the nature of Granny… she was a hero not because of notoriety but because of proximity.

And many heroes have their stories written…. 

But truthfully she and I both would be more than shocked to hear of anyone ever writing her story… as that was just not the nature of her life or experience….

But her story of influence and impact has been written… it has been written in a like nature as Paul expressed in Second Corinthians two where he states of the Corinthians, “You are our letter, having been written in our hearts, known and read by all men….” (2Cor.3.2)

And so the story of her impact and influence has and continues to be written as it were….

So… why was she a hero?

• She stayed the course.
• She was faithful.
• She helped me and many of you in a range of tangible and intangible ways.
• She was kind and yet sensible.
• She prayed for me, my family, the church, and those in need of Christ.
• And she finished well – she finished in a way that is to be envied… because there was not a charge to be brought against her… only a genuine loss in her being gone.

Now… Granny knew she was my hero. I had the opportunity to share this with her.

But… because we are at a funeral… I want to be clear about this matter of who are heroes….

Not everyone gets to die a hero any more than not everyone should be lauded as a righteous man or woman.

Dying doesn’t make you a hero and it does not artificially impute the identity of being righteous upon you either. 

Granny was a hero of mine because she lived a Psalm One life.

Now… some of you may be curious as to what I mean by a “Psalm One Life” and the best place to make this plain is to look to Psalm One.

“How blessed is the man (or the woman) who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, nor stand in the way of sinners, nor sit in the seat of scoffers! But [their] delight is in the law of Yahweh, and in His law [they] meditate day and night. And [they] will be like a tree firmly planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in its season and its leaf does not wither; and in whatever [they] do, [they] prosper. The wicked are not so, but they are like chaff which the wind drives away. Therefore the wicked will not rise in the judgment, nor sinners in the congregation of the righteous. For Yahweh knows the way of the righteous, but the way of the wicked will perish.”

A Psalm One man… a Psalm One woman….

And how might I describe such a person….

• As a righteous person whose memory is a blessing…
• As one who was saved by grace.
• As one who feared The Lord.
• As one who modeled faithfulness.
• As one who served through prayer.
• As one who struggled and smiled.
• As one who graciously sacrificed.
• As one who loved The Lord.
• As one who loved their family.
• As one who stayed the course.

And perhaps also a Philippians One man… or a Philippians One woman.

Now… the association here may not be as direct for some of you… and others may conclude that my relating these matters to Philippians One is a bit contrived as I have been teaching through Philippians since late this summer – so perhaps I am artificially pressing its influence here.

But one of my favorite expressions of pastoral ministry for some time now has been to write Granny a letter almost every Monday of my week. 

And I have to qualify… almost every Monday because sometimes my Monday letters turned into Tuesday or Wednesday letters… and some weeks I had to catch up… but there was a measure of consistency to this work.

And the majority of these letter’s consisted of my walking her through the text of Scripture I had taught that Sunday. 

So… until her long rest these last few weeks Granny has walked with me through almost the entirety of Philippians chapter one… and mom dutifully played her the final two messages that were not shared with her in written form – bringing her to the conclusion of Philippians one with me.

So, with our remaining time I would like to softly highlight how Granny was not only a Psalm One Woman, but also a Philippians One Woman too. 

And while there is much to be said… both of her legacy and from the text… we will only be drawing out a few points of relation and principle as we work our way through the chapter together.

Philippians 1:1-2, “Paul and Timothy, slaves of Christ Jesus, To all the saints in Christ Jesus who are in Philippi, with the overseers and deacons: Grace to you and peace from God our Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.”

Here we can note two identities and a blessing.

Paul and Timothy are referred to as slaves of Christ Jesus and the believers in Philippi as saints in Christ Jesus.

So, we have two identities both rooted in their association to Christ Jesus.

One identity perhaps brings you to a pause as the title of slave or servant is not commonly expressed in our common experiences and could even be considered as having some measure of baggage with it when viewed through recent history… or perhaps even any length of history as men often make terrible masters and lords.

Men and women are often not even especially good at governing each other or serving as employers. 

But this expression of servitude is not with a view to natural man, but to Christ Jesus, The Incarnate Son of God. The One who as Paul later states in chapter two, “…who, although existing in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, by taking the form of a slave, by being made in the likeness of men. Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. Therefore, God also highly exalted Him, and bestowed on Him the name which is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus EVERY KNEE WILL BOW, of those who are in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and that EVERY TONGUE WILL CONFESS that Jesus Christ is LORD, to the glory of God the Father.”

So… this is no natural Lord or Master… but the humbled and now exalted Son of God who righteously rules and graciously cares for His beloved. 

We could have no better master… no better lord… and Granny knew this and was herself a slave or servant of Christ Jesus who she also knew as her Redeemer – He who delivered her from another form of servitude… namely that of her sin.

And then there is a more welcoming identity, saints. 

But there is perhaps some measure of confusion over this title too… so I want to be clear.

A saint is not a nice, polite, or gracious person… nor are they someone who met some imposed criteria for a canonized status.

A saint is simply a holy person… a person who has been set apart from this world and to God.

Granny was a saint… not for having the patience to raise my dad… but because she submitted to Christ in faith and repentance… and Christ taking on the debt and penalty of her sin applied His righteousness to her (just as we heard in our last song this morning). That great exchange made her a saint….

And then there was the blessing of “Grace and Peace.” 

A well known expression within the New Testament Letters but one that is packed with rich truths….

But for our purposes we can rejoice that Granny knew the grace of God in Christ and therefore also had Peace with God… and in her soul.

She did wrestle with things… and she did carry various burdens… but she wrestled and carried burdens well because under all such trials and difficulties was a foundation of peace.

Philippians 1:3-5, “I thank my God in all my remembrance of you, always offering prayer with joy in my every prayer for you all, because of your fellowship in the gospel from the first day until now.”

Paul was able to make such a beautiful statement about this church that he participated in establishing and that walked with him in the fellowship of the gospel from the time of its founding through the time of his writing because of the enduring faithfulness of the Lord and their service to Him.

Granny had walked in faith and faithfulness longer than almost every one of us have been alive… and for a season of her life I had the joy of being one of her pastors. And while I was not with her from the beginning of her walk with Christ I was with her for many of her final years and through the end. And so I can appreciate Paul’s beautiful statement here as I joined her in her fellowship in the gospel and because of her faithful walk could thank my God in all my remembrance of her… always offering prayer with joy in my every prayer for her.

Philippians 1:6, “For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.”

Christ began a good work in Granny and because it was Christ who began this work it was Christ who saw it through…. 

Any of us with any number of years ourself know that life has challenges… people have weaknesses… and being conformed to Christ is hard.

But… if Christ began His good work in you He will bring it to completion… and now while Granny’s body is with us her spirit is with the Lord. Her work of sanctification is completed and she only awaits The Day of Christ when this body is resurrected, reunited with her spirit, and made fit for eternity in glory.

Philippians 1:7-8, “For it is only right for me to think this way about you all, because I have you in my heart, since both in my chains and in the defense and confirmation of the gospel, you all are fellow partakers with me in this grace. For God is my witness, how I long for you all with the affection of Christ Jesus.”

Here Paul expresses a profound measure of affection for the Philippians and does this while affirming their shared participation in the work of gospel ministry.

And Granny was an invaluable partner with me and many others in gospel ministry… but she did not always recognize such of herself.

I remember a hard conversation I had with her several years ago. I was writing Sunday School curriculum for the book of First Peter and when her class came to chapter four, verses ten and eleven, she was disappointed with herself.

She was disappointed because here Peter speaks of spiritual gifts and services within the church and she felt she had nothing to offer.

Somewhere between the identity of being a pastor and a grandson I reminded her that she had much to offer. 

She brought a testimony to the veracity and power of the gospel at work in the life of every day believers. 

She brought decades of influence, instruction, and help to me and many others. 

She was a living example of Paul’s reminding Timothy of the faith that had been with his grandmother and mother….

I reminded her that in my study I have books that once were on her shelf… resources that she had acquired, worked through, and passed on to me.

I reminded her and continued to remind her that she labored in prayer and that no measure of value could be placed upon such service.

I reminded her that if I bring any value in the service and care of others then it is always with a measure of her influence and help.

So… like Paul I had a great affection for Granny and her participation in gospel service with me.

I will be more concise moving forward… I do not ever recall her ever telling me to wrap up a lesson or a sermon but she very well may have thought it….

Philippians 1:9-11, “And this I pray, that your love may abound still more and more in full knowledge and all discernment, so that you may approve the things that are excellent, in order to be sincere and without fault until the day of Christ, having been filled with the fruit of righteousness which comes through Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God.”

Paul prayed for the Philippians progressive sanctification with a view to The Day of Christ.

Granny’s progress was evident… it was plain… and now it is finished.

Philippians 1:12-18, “Now I want you to know, brothers, that my circumstances have turned out for the greater progress of the gospel, so that my chains in Christ have become well known throughout the whole praetorian guard and to everyone else, and that most of the brothers, having become confident in the Lord because of my chains, have far more courage to speak the word of God without fear. Some, to be sure, are preaching Christ even from envy and strife, but some also from good will; the latter do it out of love, knowing that I am appointed for the defense of the gospel; the former proclaim Christ out of selfish ambition rather than from pure motives, thinking to cause me affliction in my chains. What then? Only that in every way, whether in pretense or in truth, Christ is proclaimed, and in this I rejoice.”

Paul esteemed the gospel over himself… 

and I do not possess a memory of Granny modeling anything less.

She loved The Lord… and dutifully esteemed the gospel in her faithful commitment to the local church and the straightening of its fellowship. 

She adorned the gospel well and while her story may have been tremendously different than Paul, the Philippians, and others… she too clearly rejoiced in Christ being preached and gave much of her time to seeing that she come under the gospel’s proclamation too.

Philippians 1:19-20, “Yes, and I will rejoice, for I know that THIS WILL TURN OUT FOR MY SALVATION through your prayers and the provision of the Spirit of Jesus Christ, according to my earnest expectation and hope, that I will not be put to shame in anything, but that with all boldness, Christ will even now, as always, be magnified in my body, whether by life or by death.”

Paul again affirmed his joy in the gospel while also expressing a clear confidence in The Lord’s care of him… to include his deliverance from those who acted with malice intent. 

Here he also laid the foundation for his forthcoming statement of how he viewed his life in submission to Christ.

So, with Paul’s view to deliverance I reminded Granny of her continued ministry to myself and many others… as Paul viewed the believers’ work of prayer as an invaluable element of service to him.

Granny prayed and in this strengthened my hand in service… 

and so my grief of loss is compounded as I lost not only a family member but a righteous co-laborer too.

A righteous co-laborer who like Paul aimed to magnify Christ… making Him near and close for others.

Philippians 1:21-26, “For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain. But if I am to live on in the flesh, this will mean fruitful labor for me; and I do not know what I will choose. But I am hard-pressed between the two, having the desire to depart and be with Christ, for that is very much better, yet to remain on in the flesh is more necessary for your sake. And convinced of this, I know that I will remain and continue with you all for your progress and joy in the faith, so that your reason for boasting may abound in Christ Jesus in me, through my coming to you again.”

This was the final portion of Philippians that I had an opportunity to write to Granny about… and I shared with her of Paul’s great tension and its beautiful resolution. He knew it was by far superior to be with Christ… but in deference to the care and service of the Philippians he purposed to continue on in service to them.

Well… while Paul remained with the Philippians for a time his death did come… and the moment his natural life concluded he was with Christ and that was very much better….

Granny’s story was no different.

• She lived well.
• She served well.
• And and she finished well.

And when her spirit left her body Tuesday morning she was with Christ and this was very much better for her….

Philippians 1:27-30, “Only live your lives in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or remain absent, I will hear about your circumstances, that you are standing firm in one spirit, with one mind contending together for the faith of the gospel, in no way alarmed by your opponents—which is a sign of destruction for them, but of salvation for you, and that too, from God. For to you it has been granted for Christ’s sake, not only to believe in Him, but also to suffer for His sake, having the same struggle which you saw in me, and now hear to be in me.”

I did not have an opportunity to write a letter for this last portion of chapter one but Granny did.

What took me two weeks to teach through she wrote on the pages of her own testimony… as she lived her life in a manner of worthy of the gospel of Christ. 

And for this reason she was my hero.

And with this I would once more remind you, 

“The memory of the righteous is a blessing….” Proverbs 10:7

And with gratitude to Christ we remember that

• Granny was saved by grace.
• Feared The Lord.
• Modeled faithfulness.
• Served through prayer.
• Struggled and smiled.
• Graciously sacrificed.
• Loved The Lord.
• Loved her family.
• Stayed the course.
• And was for many of us… a hero.

Close In Prayer

*All Scripture References/Citations: Legacy Standard Bible (Unless Otherwise Noted)